November 17, 2011
My encounter with Jane taught me so much. Meeting Jane was not just happenstance. God scripted the winding paths of our lives and brought us together for such a time as this. I am a different person today because of all I learned and am still learning as I reflect back on her life and as I read her thoughts, comments and hand-written notes written throughout her well-worn Bibles and in her journal.
Jane was first and foremost a faithful servant of Christ. She did not just "happen" to be a devoted Christ-follower. She purposely surrendered her will to God's will over and over again throughout her entire life. Jane understood from a young age that she needed a Savior and she relied upon Him for her salvation and help. Jane was intellectually gifted. She was the Valedictorian of her senior class, receiving many awards and accolades at her graduation ceremony, yet she understood her gifts and talents were God-given. During the family celebration held in her honor, Jane quietly slipped away to the privacy of her bedroom so she could kneel down and thank God for her accomplishments and to surrender her life and her accomplishments to His service. The surrendering of her heart, desires, and talents didn't stop there. Jane wrote in her journal about a time (while well into her 80's) she knelt down in the privacy of her bathroom to again surrender her will and her heart's desire to her heavenly Father's will for her life. Jane
purposely pursued her heavenly Father.
Jane's life was not without difficulties and hardship. Her mother died when she was barely out of her teens. Jane was the oldest child and became the "Mom" figure to not only her two younger sisters, but also to a little cousin who was orphaned through a tragic family circumstance and was taken in and adopted by Jane's family. At a time when Jane should have been able to pursue her own dreams, she instead stepped up and took responsibility for her sisters. She freely gave of herself and put her own desires aside to do what was right for others. After high school Jane took some business classes and worked as a secretary in a law office. Later in life, almost 20 years after finishing high school, Jane enrolled in college. She worked to pay her way through school and eventually earned a degree in English Literature. She was a leader and well respected by her peers. Jane excelled at many things and used her gifts to teach English, German, and Bible at several different schools in underprivileged Appalachia mountain areas.
But then later in life the unthinkable happened. Jane lost her ability to speak and therefore lost her ability to teach and financially provide for herself. She was alone with no other support. What was she going to do? When faced with the reality she was no longer going to be able to support herself through teaching, she came face to face with the dire seriousness of her situation. Alone and vulnerable, she prayed for God to be her Father and sought his help, guidance, and protection for her future.
In God's Sovereignty, the plan to bring our winding paths together was put into motion.
It just so happened...
Jane remembered the faith ministry work of the
World Missionary Press, an organization located in Indiana with the same passion and servant's heart as her own. Many years earlier, while visiting her sister who married and lived in Indiana, Jane had the opportunity to meet the founders of World Missionary Press.
It just so happened...
Jane decided to write and inquire about any possible positions available at the World Missionary Press and whether they would hire her. The founders of WMP replied they were not able to pay her a salary, but they did have housing they were willing to allow her to live in if she wanted to come and work for them.
It just so happened...
Jane made the move to Indiana. She lived in the provided housing and handled all the written correspondence with donors and missionaries. She was a gracious hostess and often entertained traveling missionaries and other dignitaries in her home. In spite of her voice limitations, Jane was able to live independently in the WMP provided housing for many years.
Jane knew what it meant to live her life "
Walking by Faith." When you read Jane's personal journals you understand how much faith she had to
live out. Her life was not easy. Jane had disappointments and faced many difficult situations during her lifetime. And now she is elderly; she is alone with no children or husband; her sister who lived in Indiana has passed away; Jane now lives in an area without extended family close by; she has no family to assist or care for her; she still cannot speak above a whisper; she is diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease; she knows her health is deteriorating; and she has no idea of what she is going to do. Alone—all alone. Jane talks over and over in her journals about putting herself in God's hands and trusting him to take care of her. Jane faithfully walked the footpath God scripted for her life.
Jane was wise and conscientious. Realizing she was most likely going to need assistance in the near future, Jane asked a woman with whom she worked at World Missionary Press to become her Power of Attorney. She continued to live independently for a time, but after several car accidents it became apparent it was no longer safe for her to live alone and arrangements were made for Jane to enter a nursing home.
During Jane's first years in the nursing home she would participate in the weekly Bible studies held for the residents. But as her condition deteriorated she was no longer able to do the things she loved. She was just there in the nursing home, barely existing. From outside appearances it appeared as if Jane's life held little value, just taking up space in an already crowded world. Her physical strength and her mobility—gone. Her accomplished and bright mind that brought her many academic honors—gone. But what was
not gone was the true essence of who Jane was. Her Spirit (and
HIS in her) was alive and well. Not just alive, but thriving.
When I look at the winding paths our lives took before we met for the first time in early 2007, I just shake my head in amazement. Jane's life begins in Pennsylvania, the daughter of a coal miner. Jane's mother dies at a young age and Jane helps raise her siblings after her Mother's death. Jane is active in Billy Graham crusades. She organizes a letter writing campaign for the local men in the World War II. She lives within walking distance of the Appalachian Trail, loves hiking it, and organizes group hikes on the trail. In her forties Jane goes to college and earns a degree. She teaches in KY and several other states. Then disaster strikes and she loses her ability to speak and provide for herself. All alone and in a desperate situation, Jane moves to Indiana. She works at World Missionary Press. Then Jane's health fails and she eventually ends up residing in a local nursing home.
I grow up in rural Indiana as the youngest in the family. I go with my family and the youth group of our church to the World Missionary Press to help put booklets together. I marry and my husband and I have two children. My life is fairly uneventful. We have a happy home, good friends, and we live a contented life. I too am an organizer; volunteer my time with various organizations; chair committees and serve on boards; love to hostess gatherings with family and friends; have a passion for teaching; and love hiking the Appalachian Trail. Our family experiences a few bumps along the road, but through it all our faith remained strong and the various difficulties we faced drew us closer to God.
Then the bottom falls out and our world is shaken to the core. I
know I am supposed to take my eyes off of what was happening to us and to GO and DO—
GO and
DO something for someone else.
It just so happened...
Five years prior to this crisis, my husband and I began going to a local nursing home every Christmas morning. Our daughter was living in AZ and we celebrated Christmas with our son's family on Christmas Eve, so
we just happened to decide to spread some joy to nursing home residents on Christmas morning.
It just so happened...
that of all the area nursing homes we could have chosen to go to, we chose to spend every Christmas morning at the nursing home chosen for Jane.
It just so happened...
at about the same time we began to go to the nursing home I also got the totally random idea to hike the Appalachian Trail.
How did I get the idea to hike the Appalachian Trail? It was the weirdest thing. I was going to be turning 50 and decided I ought to do something to make it stand out. Hmm... what should I do? I came up with three things. 1) Go to college; 2) Learn to play the guitar; and 3) Hike the Appalachian Trail. Three odd and random things. Why would I want to go to college? There wasn't a thing I would change in my life. The only reason would be to prove to my Dad that I could. Dad and Mom paid for my older brother and sister to go to college. But when it was my turn, my Dad told me he wouldn't pay a dime to help me. He did not like what he felt college did to my siblings and he didn't want that to happen to me. I was hurt, but in the early '70's there weren't many options for a poor farm girl. My husband and I married soon after high school. If at the age of 50 the only reason to go to college is to prove to your Dad that you can, then something is sadly wrong in your life. So option #1 was out. (BTW - I can honestly say thank you to my Dad now. His decision shaped my life and made me who I am today.) Next on the list was to learn to play the guitar. While it would be great to play, who was I kidding?? I don't have the patience it would require to learn how to play. So option #2 was out. The only thing left on my list was #3. Hike the Appalachian Trail. Where on earth did that idea come from? I don't even know how I knew there was such a thing as the Appalachian Trail. I started researching the A.T. and loved the idea. I have a group of girlfriends (there are five of us) who have been friends since 1st grade. We always talked about doing something special for our 50th birthdays. Something normal like taking a cruise together.😊 Instead, I said to them, "What do you think about hiking a section of the A.T. together?" And that is what we did. In 2004 we celebrated our 50th birthdays by hiking a section of the Appalachian Trail in Shenandoah National Park—the first of my many trips to the A.T.
Unbeknownst to either Jane or myself, God was taking our winding paths and scripting a plan for the intersection of our lives. When Jane lost her voice it appeared to be a disastrous turn of events but it was actually God positioning Jane exactly where He wanted her to be. He had a mission for Jane to complete, and the mission was in Indiana. When our personal family circumstances changed and we were going to be alone on Christmas mornings, God put it into our minds to spend the morning visiting residents in a nursing home. And not just any nursing home, but the exact same nursing home chosen for Jane.
God knew what we didn't know. God knew that on January 4th and into the early morning hours of January 5th, my world as I knew it, was going to come crashing down. And in HIS loving providence, every single detail needed to bring Jane's path and my path together was perfectly in place and waiting for His divine appointment.
It was time for HIS plan to come to fruition!
When I went to the nursing home on January 05, 2007, the receptionist asked me to wait and speak with the Activities Director. While I waited I was annoyed and irritated. Why should I have to wait to talk with someone? We have been coming here for years! Why can't I just walk the halls and visit with the residents? I was thinking all those thoughts while I waited. The Activities Director finally came. She introduced herself and we sat in the far corner of the cafeteria. We talked and shared together. I explained to her why I was there. Then she said, "Let's walk the halls and see where the Holy Spirit directs us." She took me down a hallway I had never been to before—and that is where I met Jane.
God knew I would not have went where He wanted me to go on my own so He arranged for someone to take me there—and I was annoyed at being forced to wait. I learned an important truth that day.
If you are going to "wait on the Lord," you have to give Him space to lead!
When my world came crashing down Jane and I were each positioned exactly where God wanted us to be. God used something as random as our shared love for the Appalachian Trail to prove to me this was no ordinary happenstance event. What were the chances of an elderly person (in a nursing home in Indiana) knowing anything about the A.T. let alone growing up living just a few miles from it AND loving to hike it? Meeting Jane was not mere coincidence. It was a God-ordained divine arrangement for a God-ordained divine purpose. God in His great Sovereignty, took the seemingly disastrous situations in both of our lives to close the door on our past stories and bring the winding paths of our lives together so a new story could be written. What appeared to be disastrous endings brought about the opportunity for a
New Beginning.
Jane and I did not
just so happen to meet. Nothing along the winding paths of our lives
just so happened. It was all scripted and part of God's greater plan.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Jeremiah 29:11–13
It is humbling and gratifying to reflect back and realize that God has a perfect plan designed for each of our lives. Knowing God has a perfect plan grows our faith and brings peace and contentment, even in the midst of
a storm. God has a plan for your life too. My prayer is that
The Story of Jane will change your life as well and bless you as you walk on your own journey.
Some things
I KNOW:
- God is in control
- We can trust Him
- We need to live in obedience to the Holy Spirit's promptings
- You never know what your obedience may lead to, even five years later
- DO—do the right things
- God loves us
- He wants the best for us
I love how this list ended up. God first and last with our actions in the middle. That is exactly what it should be. What we do isn't first. God is first; we surrender and obey; and then God provides.
It's ALL about you God.
God never forgot about His precious child Jane. He did not see her life as value-less because she was old, ill, and in a nursing home. He loved Jane
so much that He used a rotten situation to bring us together so that
every week, for the last sixteen months of her life, she had someone come and visit her every Monday morning. What an honor it was to spend time reading, singing, and praying with Jane. I am so grateful for the privilege of "walking" with Jane on her journey to her eternal home.
In response to our obedience, God used an elderly woman with dementia in a nursing home to reveal Himself to us and others around us.
He knew! We were blindly working as hard as we could building our joint project. We had no idea there were schemes going on behind the scenes. But
He knew!
He knew the hearts and minds of all involved. What shocked us did not shock God.
He knew the depths to which my sister and brother-in-law would go.
He knew! And for
years He had a plan in place and ready for the exact moment. And without us knowing it, for
years He was preparing us to be in the position we needed to be in for Him to use our lives.
God has the plan, and we need to be obedient. All those circumstances we faced earlier in our lives took us down a path that led us closer to God. We need to carefully listen to
and heed the Holy Spirit's promptings. What if? What if we had not decided to go to a nursing home on Christmas mornings? What if out of embarrassment, exhaustion, or pride I refused to go do something for someone else on 1/5/07 because of how I felt or looked? What if I wouldn't have chosen to be obedient? What if I would have refused to go and see Jane every week? I'm glad I'll never know the answer to those questions. What I do
know is that God loves each of us and wants the best for us. He can be trusted. I love how He used something as random as the Appalachian Trail to show me this was the Hand of God.
As the old hymn says:
Trust and Obey!
Addendum: Two songs that have been running through my mind non-stop these last several days.
You Are God Alone
Our God
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Jeremiah 34:1 – 35:19